How to support someone who is grieving

You do not need the perfect words. Practical, gentle ways to show up for a friend or family member after a loss.

When someone we care about loses a loved one, we often worry about saying the wrong thing — so we say nothing. But silence can feel lonely. Here are simple ways to help.

Show up, even briefly

A short message, a visit or a meal says "I am here". You do not need to fix anything.

Things that help to say

• "I am so sorry. I am here for you."
• "I remember when they…" — sharing a memory can be a gift.
• "Would it help if I…?" — offer something specific, like cooking or school pick-ups.

Things to avoid

• Comparing their loss to your own or someone else's
• "Everything happens for a reason" or "They are in a better place" — unless you know these words comfort them
• Setting a timeline for when they should feel better

Keep checking in

Support often fades after the first few weeks, but grief does not. Remember birthdays, anniversaries and holidays — these days can be especially hard.

When grief becomes too heavy

If someone seems unable to cope for a long time, stops eating or sleeping, or talks about not wanting to live, encourage them to speak to a professional and help them find support.

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